Not All Anxiety Is Created Equal
Last Updated: June 22 2026
Originally Posted: June 28, 2025
The other day I had a conversation with a friend who shared with me that with the support of his therapy he’d recently realized that he’s been living with anxiety his whole life but never knew it.
He, like many of us, thought anxiety had to look like a full-blown panic attack, or at the very least that intense nervous system activation, like your body’s bracing for a crash that never comes. He didn’t realize that the tightness in his chest, the scattered thoughts, and that constant low hum of pressure could be anxiety, too.
Most of us were never taught what anxiety is, let alone that there are different types, how to distinguish between them, and how to support ourselves through the experience. Some of us are out here thinking we are grounded because our mind feels calm, meanwhile our bodies are begging for our attention. Or we think our worrying is just a part of our personality, rather than understanding our nervous system may be stuck in overdrive.
If any of this resonates, this article might be for you.
This post is about the two most common forms: cognitive anxiety, which lives primarily in the mind, and somatic anxiety, which lives primarily in the body. Understanding which one you're dealing with, or whether you're dealing with both, changes how you support yourself in a way that actually works.
Two sides of the same coin: Cognitive and Somatic Anxiety
Anxiety can be categorized by how anxiety shows up in your system: either primarily through your thoughts (cognitive) or through physical sensations in your body (somatic). Most people are more fluent in one than the other, and most people have been taught to recognize only one.
Cognitive Anxiety
This is the version most people recognize. It shows up as:
Racing thoughts
Overanalyzing and replaying conversations
Catastrophic "what if" spirals
Difficulty sleeping because your mind won't quiet
A sense of dread that feels like it's coming from your thoughts
Cognitive anxiety tends to start in the mind and work its way into the body. You might lie awake replaying something you said, spiraling into what it meant, what they thought, what might happen next, until your chest is tight and sleep is gone. The loop moves: thought → anxiety → physical symptoms.
Somatic Anxiety
This one is harder to catch, especially if you've spent years being more oriented toward your thoughts than your body. It shows up as:
Chest tightness or pressure
Nausea or stomach discomfort
Muscle tension, particularly in the jaw, shoulders, or belly
A restless, unsettled feeling with no clear cause
The sense that something is wrong, but you can't name what
Somatic anxiety tends to start in the body, and then the mind tries to explain it. Your heart rate spikes or you feel suddenly dizzy, and your brain, looking for a reason, starts generating them: something is wrong, something is coming, something is about to go badly. That interpretation amplifies the physical sensation, and the loop tightens: sensation → catastrophic thought → more anxiety.
The sneaky part is that somatic anxiety can feel like a physical problem rather than a nervous system response. People spend years treating the symptom, the tight chest, the chronic stomach aches, the tension headaches, without recognizing what's underneath it.
Why the distinction matters
If you only know to look for racing thoughts, you might miss the ways anxiety is living in your body. You might believe you're calm because your mind is quiet, while your nervous system is running an entirely different story underneath.
And it works the other way too. If you know your body carries anxiety but you don't recognize the cognitive loop that often triggers it, you might keep trying somatic tools on what is actually a thought pattern, and wonder why the relief doesn't last.
The two types respond to different support, and the more we understand how anxiety moves through, and shows up in us, the more powerfully we can show up for ourselves.
Cognitive anxiety tends to respond to:
Slowing the thought loop before it accelerates
Journaling or externalizing the spiral
Cognitive reframing
Gentle redirection of attention
Somatic anxiety tends to respond to:
Breath work that signals safety to the nervous system
Grounding through sensation and physical contact
Slow movement
Naming the sensation without immediately explaining it
Understanding what kind of anxiety you’re experiencing isn’t just about insight and it’s definitely not about figuring yourself out so you can fix or control what’s happening. That only leads to hypervigilance toward your own symptoms, shame when you “know better” but still feel anxious, and intellectual bypassing that skips over your body’s real needs. This work is about cultivating compassion. It’s about learning your patterns so you can meet yourself with care, not criticism. From that place, you’re able to offer the kind of support that actually works because it’s rooted in relationship, not reaction.
How to start noticing your pattern
Understanding is powerful, but only if we bring it into our lived experience. So let’s start there. The more clearly we can track how anxiety begins and unfolds in us, the more we can meet ourselves in those early moments, before the spiral takes hold.
Heres the thing: Anxiety doesn’t always announce itself loudly. It creeps in, subtle, familiar, and often disguised as “this is just how I am.” Regular check-ins can help you recognize early signs before they spiral into overwhelm.
Try and remember that check-ins are a starting point. Try both, especially if you’re not sure where your anxiety tends to show up. These check-in’s will help you discover your patterns. Over time, you might notice one pathway is louder than the other and that’s helpful information. Once you begin to recognize whether anxiety shows up more in your thoughts, your body, or both, you can start to tailor your support accordingly. But both matter. Your mind and body are in relationship. The more fluently you listen to both, the more attuned your support becomes.
Two simple check-ins can help you begin to track how it actually moves through you.
Cognitive check-in
Take sixty seconds. Ask:
What's running through my mind right now?
Am I replaying something, projecting forward, or caught in a loop?
Is there a thought I keep returning to?
Just notice. You don't have to stop the thought. You're learning the pattern.
Somatic check-in
If it feels okay, close your eyes. Try a mini body scan:
Where do I feel tension?
How’s my breath—shallow or full?
Any odd sensations—tightness, buzzing, clenching?
You don’t need to fix it. Just notice. Awareness is the doorway to regulation.
Over time, patterns will become visible. One pathway may be louder than the other. That's useful information, not a flaw.
Support Strategies for Different Types of Anxiety
When you feel it in your body first
Slow your exhale. A longer exhale than inhale signals the nervous system toward safety.
Name the sensation without catastrophizing it. "This is tightness" is different from "something is wrong."
Press your feet into the floor. Notice what you can hear, smell, or feel. Come back to the present through your senses.
Place a hand on your chest or belly. Sometimes physical contact is enough to interrupt the spiral.
When you feel it in your mind first
Write down the thought. Getting it out of the loop and onto paper interrupts the spin.
Ask whether the thought is actually true, or whether your nervous system is drawing from an old pattern.
Give yourself a contained window to think about it, then redirect your attention to something that requires gentle, present-moment focus.
Let your body help. A short walk, slow stretching, or washing dishes can shift the cognitive loop in ways that thinking about the loop cannot.
Common Questions
What does somatic anxiety feel like? It is a physical experience. Chest tightness, a fast or pounding heart, a knot in the stomach, tension in the jaw or shoulders, a restless sense that something is off. The sensations arrive first. The story about what it could be or mean arrives after the fact.
How is somatic anxiety different from cognitive anxiety? Cognitive anxiety starts as thought and moves down into the body. Somatic anxiety starts as sensation, and the mind builds a story to explain it. Each one responds to different support.
How do you calm somatic anxiety? Work with the body first. Lengthen the exhale so it runs longer than the inhale. Press your feet into the floor and name what you can feel, hear, or smell. Rest a hand on your chest or belly. Name the sensation plainly before the mind starts explaining it.
Final Thoughts on Understanding and Supporting Anxiety
Like anything worth doing, this takes time. Coming into deeper relationship with yourself is not an overnight process, so be gentle with yourself. You may not always catch the loop before it starts. You might not always know whether it’s cognitive or somatic—or both. That’s okay. You don’t have to do it right. You just have to keep showing up.
Every time you pause to notice, every time you offer yourself a breath, or a softer thought, or a grounding moment you’re practicing a new way of relating to yourself. And that is powerful. That is what builds safety and trust in your system.
This is what nervous system healing looks like. Not a dramatic transformation overnight, but the slow accumulation of tiny moments of presence, safety and care—offered again and again.
Remember: Everything you need to heal is already within you. Your body knows the way— you just need to create space to listen.
Celebrating you in the midst of your process,
Taren
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